Agent... you are putting pressure on him, and by doing so, you are screwing up your chances of him being ready to commit to you, when your "time is up". (3 months)

let him babble as much as he likes, until that time.
yeah, it hurts, and it is irritating. but it's the only way he's going to feel like he made up his own mind about it, rather than being forced into it.

It may be that at the end of it, he's still going to babble on about wanting to see if "the grass is greener", blah blah.
At that point, you probably will have to give him exactly what he wants, in the sense of leaving him to himself in his apartment, and going 100% dark no contact for 3 months.

that time is not now

You have to back off!! \:\(

asking if he was exclusively dating you, and not having sex with anyone else, is perfectly fair. But putting pressure on him about it, is just going to put him in defensive, retaliatory mode, I think.

I know you want to bludgeon him about what a schmuck he is being.
Trust me, been there, done that, and it doesnt help. In my situation, at least, it made things much much worse.



Last edited by Dom R; 10/10/07 05:40 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle