I think a lot of times, we end up getting frustrated b/c nothing seems to be moving in the "right" direction and our spouse is still acting like a dumba$$.
That's the time when we need to step back and just do the ultimate distancing act/dance. Otherwise, usually what happens is that we say or do something w/o truly thinking what is going to happen or what may happen as a result of our actions. Instead, we need to say, ok, I'm going to wait a few days and let my head clear and make sure that I'm really, truly sure of what I'm about to do/say instead of just "reacting" and regretting it later.
It's very hard at times like this. We want everything to be wonderful NOW. We want results NOW, but if that is not realistic, we need to sit back and make sure that our actions are going to get the results that we truly want before we take any action.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
