Time for healing without closing the door

[not an ex yet]

Hey CMC,
I just went back and read your entire sitch (yes, I am at work too!). Wow, that is quite a chain of events. Our H's do sound ALOT alike. Esp the "if you want" crap!! I hate that, could you just tell me if you want/don't want what I am asking.
Anyway, I am confused about one thing. At what point this went from you being done and him begging to come back, to you wanting him to come home and him wanting to do his own thing?
I totally agree with you about not wanting him there when watching d. If you want to stay home and watch movies by yourself, you should be able to without him knowing what you are doing. The S's need to wonder what we are up to too! My H does that alot too and it gives me no time to myself, yet when he is at his place I have no idea what he is doing. If he does take them somewhere else, he never gives me a time when they will return or if they are spending the night, he always says he'll call. Never does and I end up wondering if I am supposed to be at home or doing my own thing. Very frustrating and unfair.
I was also the exact same way about telling my H everything. I would do something or find something out in the middle of the day and immediately call him and tell him about it. He never shared things with me. We would be around his family and they would say, "Oh, [husband's name] how is that big project you are working on going? I can't believe this or that happened!" I always felt left out and if I would ask why he didn't tell me about it he would act annoyed and say he forgot or he would try to tell me he did. Anyway, I am hijacking a little bit here.
I will try to keep up with your sitch. It sounds like we are much alike too! Can I ask your ages? I might have missed that but just curious.