Thanks for your post! I feel the same way. We must not be naive or blind to the difficulty of our situations, but at the same time we are here to support one another and make a stand. We can walk away from our MLC spouses any time we want, but for now we have chosen not to do that. Even if our marriages end in D, I still feel we are growing as people through this agony. I know I have, though it is agony! I've been inspired to read a lot of Buddhist writing about learning to live with uncertainty, abandoning control, and walking directly to the pain rather than trying to flee. Those are valuable life lessons no matter what happens with my marriage.
