Cat, thank you. Maybe I should suggest some strategies for H to use to avoid OW? I just don't know if there is anything I can do. I may just have to sit and wait this one out...Thank you for taking the time to write all that. You have helped tremendously!
Update We're on day number 3 of H not going to work - talk about avoidance! I'm frustrated and disappointed and feel awful. I can't concentrate on my work. I'm on edge all the time. I feel horrible for what H is going through and am frustrated that he isn't taking the necessary steps to rectify the situation. He keeps saying he's going to quit, has to quit, can't work there. I keep worrying about him jeopardizing his whole career over an OW.
I keep thinking what Sara has said about him being backed into a corner and am unsure how to help here - any suggestions? I don't want him to feel that way. I, of course, partly feel responsible for building the corner, but on the other hand, he has been saying for about a year now, that he and I cannot have a solid R if he is still working with her.
Perhaps I should recognize that there isn't anything I can do about it? Should I just stop talking about it with him? Handle it like I did the Retro. phone call? I must find a way to come to terms with H's avoidance - this isn't the first time this behavior has appeared and I'm guessing it won't be the last...sheesh.
Me: 34 H: 39 M: 7 yrs H A 12/05-8/07
If what you say surprises me, I must have been assuming something else was true. - M. Wheatley
