It is true. He was on the mobile speaker phone for his daily call with the kids and he asked so many questions. "Where is Mommy driving? Is there someone else in the car with you? Why are you in San Francisco? Who is Uncle DJ? (My best friend's husband. How could he forget the kid's nickname for Uncle David?) When are you coming back home? Is Mommy eating dinner with you tonight? Who is Mommy going to eat with?" That is funny. I am laughing at how ridiculous he sounded trying to talk on a cell speaker to a six and two year old!!
Meanwhile his car broke down, he will not get a paycheck until next month and the govt. job will most likely place him 80 miles from where the OW lives. He still denies living with OW ( not even a woman, more like a kid to me) so who even knows where he sleeps??? How will he commute? He won't even be able to afford living in that part of California. We are talking one of the most expensive places in America on $15-$21 an hour part time if he makes it past probation. That is not a lot of money for a person his age in Cali. Plus, my mom said she could take that job away from him if he ever threatens or insults me again. Her companion is one of the top heads of that govt. agency. No wonder he got that job the same week she came back from hawaii while he had to watch the bar. He has been waiting for four years for an opening at that agency. I know, I know, none of that is my concern.
BUT his life is going down the toilet. What's next? No car, no job, no OW, no home, no money. He has already thrown away a house, a business, integrity, and an intact family. Nothing's perfect but he sure made sure to sh## everything to Timbuktu. My tone is not bitter, believe me. Sarcastic, yes. Bitter, no.
I know I had as much to do with the failure of our marriage as him. But a lot of his insecurities about the marriage came from his own issues. He could never keep a job or finish school. He was weird about being a stay at home dad. It made him so happy but he felt societal pressure to be a provider not a full time dad. He is kind of small and has been feeling immasculated at work because of being assaulted. Lots of things out of control with my mom as his boss.
BTW, there are so many beautiful men in San Francisco. I live near the country and I do not see men like that around my parts. Hopefully, a handful of them are straight. COOL BLUE OCEAN full of fish in the sea. Oh, I am being bad now.
Last edited by mkultra; 10/10/0706:43 AM.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."