you know your H better than us -- will going dark get his attention or push him further away?
If you want to go through this whole DBing thing, you're opening yourself to an entire world of emotional pain (lots of growth to, but it hurts like hell -- at least for me).
Haven't read your sitch, but are you clingy? Have you been the one to push for reconciliation in the past? Do you need him, not want him? If so, maybe detaching from dancing lessons would be a good thing. On the other hand, that regular contact is something many of us would kill for. It's an opportunity to connect and have fun together. No definitive advice, but which one is the 180 for you?
Rushing to a meeting. Hope that made some sort of sense.
BD
Hi Heimlich, yes I am clingy. I have been the one to push for reconciliation in the past. He has pushed for reconciliation a couple of times directly after a bomb from him (eg after he revealed a one night stand, and again after he revealed (several months later) that the one night stand was actually an EA that included sex once and was with someone I knew well, and again after I tried to end things because I believed he was developing an EA with someone else (he denied this) and etc etc).
I think going dark for me will freak him out a bit to start with but then I think that he'll treat it as 'fine, have it your way' and go dark on me in return. I don't want that for my d's sake.
I think I have 'needed' him in the past. I'm not so sure I 'want' him any more. I don't feel good around him. I get anxious, I turn blonde.
You did make a lot of sense. Thanks for your input. That's what I love about these forums, you can get lots of different opinions and take bits of what you think will work for you. I also get to hopefully get honest opinions.
