H wants D

[forward]

I'm not necessarily opposed to him caring for D1.5 more frequently, even in presence of OW--I am worried about losing primary custody.

I am scared.

[inmyplace]

That is why I made the last post. If you want to control the agenda, you have to make the first move.

[w8ing]

Do you have to make the D move in order to make the move for custody? Is LS an option? I don't know - but I think in my state you can determine custody and financial issues without filing for D.

Breton - if you feel that you have a legitimate concern about custody, you really need to seek legal counsel soon.

w8ing

[forward]

Yes, I do need lawyer. And I could pursue LS and would initiate it.

At any rate, I am keeping my mouth shut when H mentions legal stuff in the hopes that he won't take any action. But yes, I will get L.

I think, sitting here in this pain, that I am trying my very very best. No matter what happens, I will be able to tell D1.5 the story someday and she will know that I did love her dad very much and tried very hard.

[w8ing]

Breton - that is all you can do.....

I have a tendency to, every night, look back at the day and wonder how I could have improved what I have done with regard to H.

I wish that I could say that I was doing my best every day, but I don't think I am there yet. I simply don't know how to handle a lot of this...maybe it will come with time and experience. Not that I am looking to be experienced in all of this.....

Does your H mention the legal stuff often?

w8ing

[kikifree]

Breton,
I do not post to you but read your thread periodically.

When my h was at his worst he filed papers to get full custody of D7. Did he want this? NO!

Probably, because He wanted to pay less support.

The judge saw right through it and H left it alone.

your child has been with you the majority of the time.

Let him take her one more day. That would be great for your child.

Do not be scared. Do not worry. It will all work out inthe end .