Hope is what you make of it 2

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NWH, you sould like me a few months ago. I was saying things like, wait until she has no money. Wait until she sees how the kids like her place. Wait until she finds herself living in a dump ......

Well I am now 8+ months in to this, W has no money, she lives in a place that is only one step above a housing complex. However, she still going strong as near as I can tell. She abandons the kids where ever possible and has arranged that I will have them for every major holiday.

My point is that you seem to be banking on her running in to these hardships in her life away from you and that she will come running back when they happen. Understand that nothing that you can do will bring her back. She has to go through this on her own before she comes back and she may destroy everything that is important before she does.