Since I last posted W was planning on moving out, found a place and had started the process of selecting which furniture to take. well she called yesterday and told me that her hours got cut at one of her part time jobs and moving out was on hold, hmm suspicious I think. My response was sry to hear that you should think about getting a full time job and start thinking about your long term future. besides that phone call to try and bring me down she called 3 more times, all pointless phone calls other than trying to share her misery.
For those who followed my last thread, D13 and I went deer hunting over the weekend w/o any luck but had fun. which is all that really matters.
"Worry is the price you pay for most of the things in life that never happen"
friend just called to tell me that someone over heard a mutual friend of mine and W talking about our sitch with someone else. confused I could restate but I just might confuse me. during the convo mutual friend stated that W was an idiot and the new guy she is with is an A*%. Made me laugh since we all now that they date down during mlc, also since she is now reliving her early 20s she is back to dating the losers she dated when she was that age. Besides all that W still denies that she is seeing anyone when asked.
"Worry is the price you pay for most of the things in life that never happen"
Hi w8ing No this was an over heard convo. friend that called me asked whether i knew this person that was involved in the convo. Her name is unusal and I knew who he was talking to right away. I was going to happen to drop in where this mutual friend works tomorrow. right after I drop off retainer fee for the L. I have had enough of this waiting (don't take that personal) around for W to do something. she has it made right now b/c i pay for everything and she has no worries other than having the kids 35% of the time that last 3 months. That means I get the 65% no bad if you ask me. W also tried to fix the damage she caused last week, not a good job I will have to take it all apart and fix it the best I can w/o replacing the whole thing.
D15 and I also had convo about cottage this afternoon. she does not want to sell it b/c she loves going up during the summer. was excited when I told her that I found a lot to buy and build on as soon as D is final but won't be able to finish it for about 5 years. at least she will have a place to go
"Worry is the price you pay for most of the things in life that never happen"
So when the new and young~again W is dating (but not really seeing anyone) old friends, is she with new and young~again old friends, or is she with just plain old friends that seem new again but not so old yet? Geez, no wonder she doesn't think she is seeing anyone. In replay their head spins so fast sometimes they can't even focus well enough to know what they are seeing in the mirror. They may know what they want to see. They may know what they want others to see. But they resist what is real. It paints them in a poor light and they will do anything to avoid being that person.
ok a bit of sarcasm on my part. I just hope that she and the new BF don't think that they'll get a huge pay day when D is final since i have been covering everything thus far b/c it will stop. I don't think that she realizes what she did last week would certainly give me full custody if I decided to push. besides her new 20 something life style has some serious issues as well that i am aware of.
and the wrinkle cream doesn't work, just something to take your money.
"Worry is the price you pay for most of the things in life that never happen"
NWH, you sould like me a few months ago. I was saying things like, wait until she has no money. Wait until she sees how the kids like her place. Wait until she finds herself living in a dump ......
Well I am now 8+ months in to this, W has no money, she lives in a place that is only one step above a housing complex. However, she still going strong as near as I can tell. She abandons the kids where ever possible and has arranged that I will have them for every major holiday.
My point is that you seem to be banking on her running in to these hardships in her life away from you and that she will come running back when they happen. Understand that nothing that you can do will bring her back. She has to go through this on her own before she comes back and she may destroy everything that is important before she does.
M35 W37 S9 D6 M12 yrs Know 15 yrs Bomb 1/28/07 My Sitch Failure is the opportunity to start again more intelligently - Henry Ford
