Tostado- your plan sounds pretty good. Definitely GAL. That has actually helped me. I spent the first two months being depressed at home. GAL and not pursuing are what is working for me, so far. Now I have a job! I enjoy it and am making new friends. Since he gets home mid afternoon and I don't get home until 6 I have been wondering what would happen. Well, last night he made supper and tonight he got take out, but bought something for me. Yay! He was thinking of me. He's still being very cordial to me, but I can tell that he is starting to relax when he's with me. I haven't brought up R or did any pursuing in 3 weeks and since he has been relaxing around me, I don't even want to anymore.
It gets easier as it goes along. For one thing, I think the S starts to relax a bit more and inturn you do, too. When he tells me he's going somewhere, I just say OK. I don't ask anything- ever! lol He has actually started telling me where he's going and when he'll be back or leaving a note to tell me those things. Progress! He had been just leaving with no word about his whereabouts.
Remember- it's all about her right now. I just read my book about MLC over each night and try to find the good things that have happened. Time will tell. So go out and GAL! Ronda
