Is it time to cut him off?

[Trixi]

Updating/Journaling/Wearing Out *sigh*
He did stay over Sunday night and left his stuff here at the house with the intention to stay over last night. We had our individual (as opposed to group) salsa lesson last night and then went out to dinner afterwards.

I asked him if he had left his stuff at the house on purpose or if he had just run out of time before needing to leave for work.
H "I planned on staying over another night."
Me "cool"
H "Now, don't be getting crazy ideas."
[The tone of his voice really bugged me. It felt sort of like he was doing me some sort of favor.]
Me "'Crazy' ideas?! You mean like a husband living at home with his wife?" (I was extremely offended-in retrospect, probably not the best thing to say.)
H "Well, we're just dating right now."
So we go back and forth a tad and then he said something that prompted me to say:
Me "So, are we dating exclusively?"
H "So far, yeah."

"So far"????!!! UGH!!!!!!!!!! Talk about waiting for the other shoe to fall. He did volunteer that sex could be exclusive, but no guarantees on the dating. (that's why it's "so far".) It started getting a bit heated so the convo was tabled until we got home.

At home I suggested that maybe we were miscommunicating. He said that he is taking things day by day. That I better not pressure him or it will push him away. I said that I understood that he wasn't ready to come home and that was perfectly fine. However, if I was dating 'some guy' I would want to know that things were at least moving forward (to some degree), otherwise I don't need to waste my time. A whole bunch of stuff was said; nothing too new or interesting UNTIL:
H "I hate living in that apartment. I don't know what it's like to live here, without you and be independent. I don't know what it's like to be totally broken up with you. That's why I said you might have to buy a house in Small Town; it might come to that. I don't know." -side note- Last week I had said "You're not going to make me buy a house in Small Town, are you?" and he said "I don't know what's gonna happen.Maybe.Who knows." -end side note- He continued by saying that we just bought 8 weeks worth of dance classes, so we should just take those and have a good time and see what happens.

That's a nice thought (regarding the classes); however now I am feeling (again) that the other shoe is about to fall. AND-if he does come back, how will I know that it was for ME and not the house?? How will HE know that it was for me and not the house? Sounds like he won't know that. He also said something that made it sound like he doesn't think he'll last at the apartment more than a couple more months.

Now I am feeling like I *have* to move out and let him live in the house so that he can "be sure". But I have to be honest--if he brings another woman (romantically) into my house, I am going to be PEEissed!

I hate HATE HATE moving and do NOT want to move to an apartment (or rental house) knowing that I will have to move again in a short period of time. I would much rather buy a house and settle in; make it mine. But if he changes his mind, that is a VERY costly thing to reverse.

What's the solution???