Down and out...need hope.

[DownNotOut...yet]

That helping stuff is tough. I hate when women do that (sorry girls). It is like catch 22. Consider this though. When she said, "I don't want you coming into my room at night anymore." You just said OK and didn't bring up how much she enjoyed it - GOOD. Now with the helping, she said no thank you but then you had to tell her that YOU'D like for her to allow YOU to help her out. That is about what you want - BAD. Make the offer, she knows you are offering. If she turns you down, just let it rest. What you did after she turned you down was the stuff you want to avoid. I bet she knows what she is doing. It helped me to sometimes thing of it like a game. She might say she doesn't want your help the next 20 times you ask. She will notice you offering though. Keep offering. Eventually she will say yes, please and thanks for the help. When I started cleaning the house, my wife would get bitchy and say, "You don't have to do that." I would only answer, "I want to." After month or so, she started thanking me for the help. Then after a while she began to sometimes tell me to stop cleaning and come watch TV with her or something. Hope this is making sense. I am not always the best at explaining.

Don't promise to "leave her alone at home." Promise not to come into her room at night...unless invited. That sounds a lot better. Remember, you're Mr. Big Stones. Positive and confident.