Down and out...need hope.

[DownNotOut...yet]

Hey brother, checking in on you.

As I read what you have written, it appears you may have some LBS fog going on. Let's review and you tell me what you think...

we get in the elevator and she makes sure shes standing completely on the other side of the elevator from me. then at dinner, she chooses a seat in which I cannot be very close

If things peachy keen between you, would you have noticed either of these things? Even if you noticed, would you have thought much of it? The elevator thing I think you would have not noticed and the dinner table you might have thought a bit strange but not read much into. LBS over-analyze everything. Could have meant something on her part. Maybe not. Don't let these small things break your PMA.

mine was top secret, read below the table, put in purse, and I get a quiet thank you

Perhaps yours was top secret because she didn't know what to expect, perhaps you only got a quiet thank you because if she gave more, she might cry and out herself in front of everyone?

I added that they don't get it at MY HOUSE either

Aren't you still in the same house. I am pretty sure she meant nothing by the MY HOUSE statement but because you are LBS you are reading too much in to it and are sensitive. Try to avoid this. It makes you look bitter and petty. FWIW you are actually doing pretty good in coping. I made all the same LBS mistakes as you and WAY more. My sitch went backwards until I learned to lighten up. Lighten up!

I can't believe you went in there and layed some "magic" on her. Had I tried that, my wife would have wrapped her legs around my neck and popped my head off...then collected the insurance...then run off with the kid who works at the video store. You got stones for sure. I think your response might have been OK too. If you have enough faith in the quality of your "magic" then it makes you look sort of cocky and self-assured. Probably not bad. I think though, you want to lay off on that kind of stuff. It is pursueing no matter how you slice it. Though there are a lot worse ways to pursue...and she let you do it. I read that as a positive.

Both of your posts do not paint nearly as dark a picture as you are seeing. BTW expect her to be rude, selfish etc...It will be all about her for a long time. Expect to see no progress for a while. The progress may be happening in her mind for weeks before she even gives a hint of turning.

Get PMA in any way you can. Woman want happy, confident guys.