Thanks for the update. Wow, your W is way off the deep end. So far gone. I empathize with you. We have our weak moments when we cannot help but cry. I shed some tears last night myself while listening to some music that spoke directly to my situation. I have been helped by reading Buddhist writings such as When Things Fall Apart, which encourages us to walk into the pain and fully feel it. Most of us want to run away from pain, but real growth can occur only when we face it directly and let it flow through us. So, we will have those moments but it's healthy to embrace them. This is part of our journey to wholeness.
I'm thrilled to hear that you are protecting your daughters by doing the right thing. You are a man of great character, and it takes everything you have right now but keep on keeping on that high road.
Today I signed up to help a foreign student with his English. We will spend an hour a week talking. I hope this will be fun. It's all about taking on new things and seeing where it goes. Keep on with the fun stuff! We are on our own paths. Your wife may be gone but you seem to be in a good place right now.
There's a great post somewhere on these boards about healthy detaching. Healthy detaching means recognizing you still love your WAS, but also that you know you will be fine without them. Good for you for getting to such a place!
