Yeah, good points, Sunny. That's why I plan to keep on keepin on, but I am sad and dejected, today at least.
Originally Posted By: warm&sunny
Haven't had a chance to call you with all the work being done here, in addition to a toddler & teenager circling me, so I'll respond here while I have a chance.
I know my friend. (((((Sunny))))) When I hit spots like this morning, walking out of JC, my first call is to you. Hope that makes you feel good/need/special. You are!
Originally Posted By: warm&sunny
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I think Homer has lots of value, and we should all try it, but there is no one full proof approach that will save every M
I fully agree, keep in mind though, that if there have been any recent back slides or regression, that affects the outcome somewhat.
Makes sense.
Originally Posted By: warm&sunny
As I recall, you didn't start implimenting this stuff until a couple of weeks ago.
Right.
Originally Posted By: warm&sunny
Prior to that, there was some of the stuff that your W has a hard time with shown.
Right. Wish I could go back to January and start over. Or even better yet, May 2005.
IF I were to do a better job of DR/Homering from this point forward, and if it weren't too late, here's a question: wondering if the dating will hurt me in W's eyes? She knows about it in theory, and seems to be ok with it (and even said she was ok with it (actually, said it was hard, but she understands why and thinks I need it)), but I wonder if it would push her further away, or make her less reluctant to reconcile. I used to think she would use it against me as evidence I don't care about her or the R. Just thinking out loud. Pointless mental exercise, I suppose.
Originally Posted By: warm&sunny
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She needs much much much more time and space, and it needs to be 100% conflict free with me
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I agree with you. There was conflict only a couple of weeks ago, not a long time really, to believe she wouldn't be returning to that.
Makes sense, again.
Originally Posted By: warm&sunny
I still don't hear her saying the D word, or did I miss that.
Not really saying that herslef, or bringing it up on her own. We'll see if that changes.
Originally Posted By: warm&sunny
I do think that by backing off & telling her "it's impossible" she'll be more comfortable to move towards you freely if/when she chooses to.
You're so smart Sunny.
I'll be better once this day is behind me. Think I need some TLC from you know who for a few hours tonight. (Yes, OT, it's self-medicating with a drug, I know. I know. )
Love ya Sunny! Nomo
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