Haven't had a chance to call you with all the work being done here, in addition to a toddler & teenager circling me, so I'll respond here while I have a chance.
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I think Homer has lots of value, and we should all try it, but there is no one full proof approach that will save every M
I fully agree, keep in mind though, that if there have been any recent back slides or regression, that affects the outcome somewhat. As I recall, you didn't start implimenting this stuff until a couple of weeks ago. Prior to that, there was some of the stuff that your W has a hard time with shown.
Also, when I told my H a couple of weeks ago that "it's impossible", he replied "OK, I can't stand to see you twisted all the time, so I'll do what ever you want me to do & finalize things". Not exactly springing back towards me in any sense of the concept.
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She needs much much much more time and space, and it needs to be 100% conflict free with me
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I agree with you. There was conflict only a couple of weeks ago, not a long time really, to believe she wouldn't be returning to that. I still don't hear her saying the D word, or did I miss that.
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Every bit of conflict we have had just reinforces for her that we were never meant to be together, that we're just too different, and that our M is impossible
I agree again. I do think that by backing off & telling her "it's impossible" she'll be more comfortable to move towards you freely if/when she chooses to.
