Great stuff sunny! Homer is definitely working well for you! You have become a true pro at this detachment thing -- can't say what I think you should do about the sailing event, but I can say I'm curious about what H's motives are (probably more than you are! lol).
Nomo,
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If there is any small, micro-hope of reconciling with my W my guess is it would only surface many months, and maybe years, down the road. She needs much much much more time and space, and it needs to be 100% conflict free with me. Every bit of conflict we have had just reinforces for her that we were never meant to be together, that we're just too different, and that our M is impossible.
I completely agree with you here (for both of us). I think that it is actually better if we can actually avoid seeing them for weeks, if not months, on end, and limiting phone talk too -- maybe sending notes via email or in the kids' backpacks instead(sealed, of course). I believe the less actual communication, the more healing can occur. The need as much space as we can give them, and unless it is of significant importance regarding the kids, communication should really be nonexistent. FWIW
