Brand New Day

[Nomopo]

Fantastic update Sunny! Things are going great in your sitch! Keep it up. You know I am ecstatic for you.

Had to clarify this:

I am thinking that a lot of the Homer stuff holds true.

Saying the "you're right, it's impossible" bit & desiring a R instead of needing it does change the whole dynamics.

I think Homer has lots of value, and we should all try it, but there is no one full proof approach that will save every M.

This morning, I used the "it's impossible" line again several times in JC. W has now seized on it, in the JC session and after, saying "it's impossible." She claimed "that's your word, I hadn't used that before, but yes, that's how I have felt." She seems relieved I am finally at the same point as her, as this will relieve some of her guilt/sadness in ending this M. This is all ok, because not every M can be saved and we all have to do our best to save our Ms as long as that is our goal. But some WASs are just gone. I believe that in all likelihood mine is just gone. If there is any small, micro-hope of reconciling with my W my guess is it would only surface many months, and maybe years, down the road. She needs much much much more time and space, and it needs to be 100% conflict free with me. Every bit of conflict we have had just reinforces for her that we were never meant to be together, that we're just too different, and that our M is impossible. FWIW.

Nomo