Another prize winning day here. H left this morning after an unscheduled sleep-over.
After asking me to come to dinner with them another 3x's, I accepted the invitation & went to sushi.
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When it starts to look like you are finished then it certainly causes them some worry.
What a different H showed up than the one I have seen in the last 5 months. Because I really am detached at this point, I didn't have a difficult time remembering the importance of staying that way. I know the drill now....if I go back to any kind of pursuing behavior, or even show that I'm easily concurred before there's a real commitment, we'll be sure to switch into the distancing pattern, or at least the R will take a hit as a result.
So, at dinner H wants to know what my plans are for Weds. I'm going sailing, so won't be home all day & prolly into the evening. H looks disappointed & uneasy. He wants to talk to me, it's important, when will I know if I'm going for sure, maybe I could cancel it. I tell him if I do change the date, he'll be the first person I let know. He asked me again last night twice if I might change my mind. Maybe. Tells me he needs to pick something up in the back of the house after dinner, so will be pulling up & parking in back. When he puts S4 to bed, he asks me if he might be able to spend the night downstairs, he brought all his stuff with him. Sits on the bed, rubs my feet & makes sweet small talk.
This morning, he's ultra friendly & flirty. The workers show up that I hired to fix everything that's in need of repair, so we don't spend a lot of alone time & he's out the door. Before he leaves, he pulls me over to him & tells me he hopes he'll be able to see me tomorrow evening. When I seem hesitant about kissing him goodbye, he comments on it & asks if he can have another kiss that's a little friendlier before he leaves. Sure. Upbeat, friendly & agreeable but distant.
I'll have to think on whether to cancel my sailing or not.
I am thinking that a lot of the Homer stuff holds true.
Saying the "you're right, it's impossible" bit & desiring a R instead of needing it does change the whole dynamics.
