Plank removed from my eye, too late for WAW? 6

[not an ex yet]

Hey Heim,
I understand how you feel about your girls. My kids refused to go to H apt this weekend and after he finally got them there to spend the night, S6 said he missed mommy and wanted to come home right away the next day. As much as I want to say, "see, they are hurting and it would be better if you would come home you selfish a$$!" I can't. No matter how much you think they don't and as much as they try to deny it, our S's do see the hurt in our children. You have to stop throwing it in her face! She doesn't want to see it and might be trying to ignore it for now, but believe me, at some point she will realize what she has done and the affect it has on your girls. Please, stop trying to guilt her. I can promise you it is definitely pushing her away. Of course you feel it is worth working on for your girls, you have said it, and said it again, and said it again...she knows! The more you say it the more she feels she has to deny it. What would you do if she said, "FINE, I will come back already but ONLY for the girls since you keep bringing it up." And then she came back with a ton of resentment towards you? Do you think that would benefit your girls?
You have got to let go of the OM questions also...you finally got an answer, so try to stop bringing it up. I know it is hard! Believe me, I have backslides all the time also.
Great job losing the weight. I wish I had your motivation...the scale is going the wrong way for me I'm sure that will not help my sitch at all! You seem to be a great guy, and you give people here so much support and great advice. She does seem to be softening just a little, but please don't take that tiny bit of hope and smother her with it.
Take care!