Down and out...need hope.

[Rob1231]

O.K..I dont seem to very good at this not pursuing idea. perhaps that would be the best 180 i could come up with. Nows a good time to start as we wont be around each other much for the 14 days.

so...here are my GAL ideas.

* join a workout class and workout 3 days per week.
* do more activities with my friends
* do more things than with just a couple friends
* Do fun things with kids; movies, sports, shows
* start reading profusely
* take dog on walk 5 days per week. involve kids.

That's a great start!

When I am working on goals like this (and I still do - I treat this as a "live life better forever" program, not a "live life better just until the crisis is over" program) I find it helps to be as specific as possible. So, Join a workout class and workout 3 days per week is terrific - so specific that you can look back at the end of the week and say to yourself Did I accomplish what I set out to do? See if you can get more specific with some of the others - what kind of activities, how often, with who? This is just to help motivate yourself and get you to really take that action!

here are some goals;
* stop pursuing
* practice DB as much as possible. this means no R talk, no future talk, and GAL.
* stay in house
* be very helpful around house
* change 'time' routine at house. leave early and be gone when she comes home.
* have wife give me a kiss or hug by Thanksgiving
* stop probing wife for info
* try to have PMA as much as possible
* exude total patience, no panic.

I like every one of those (well, I admit I wasn't sure what stay in house meant exactly, but that's OK ) - except one of them.

I'll bet you already know which one, too. Have wife give me a kiss or hug by Thanksgiving Now, of course I understand that you hope for this, and I hope it for you too. But for the time being, you want to focus your goals and your energy on the things that YOU can control. This one gives control of your "success or failure" away to someone else - don't do that! OWN your success, and own your happiness.

And the good news is, if you do these things and turn yourself into a happy, PMA-exuding, confident, living life to the fullest kinda guy - you will be a LOT more attractive to your wife than a panicking, depressed, dependent, victim kinda guy!