I told my psych the other day, that my H must have felt he had a hole to fill (well, yes maybe even literally....) anyway, he needs to feel that which he thinks is empty...ow fits perfectly...at least for now...as long as he doesn't really look inwards...but as soon as he starts doing that, then she won't be a perfect fit anymore, he'll try to wriggle and make sure she fits again, but once she stars 'unfitting' it won't ever be the same and MAYBE after a while, he will not be satisfied with how she 'fits' and he will either toss her out and fit the hole with someone else, or toss her out and decide to look inwards and find what was wrong in the first place.
This is just to demonstrate that ow has NOTHING to do, with H's problems or even SOLVING them...
Therefore the op is NOT important as such in this process ...
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
