Time for healing without closing the door

[not an ex yet]

What is his reason for wanting a D? Is he friendly to you when you see him? Are you living in the same house? Maybe I should go read your sitch first, but I don't think some of these S do understand what it means to end a marriage. I could have written most of your post myself, b/c my H has said some of the same things. He says we are still going to be best friends and do everything together. He still wants me to go to his family gatherings and he go to my family Thanksgivings...but not until I get over him. WTF, if you want all those things with me, then why end it?! Anyway, I sort of know how you feel and maybe it would be best to stop the dancing for the time being and tell him you need time to sort through all this. You can't just go from W to friend just like that...no one can!