My Journey Begins...New here

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Oiy....I am only technically a week into this journey and probably the best way to describe things is like a muscle car reving it's engine!!!

She is actively talking about moving back in and I am anxious for that to happen, but I want it to be under the right terms. I.E. she feels romantically for me, wants to be an active part of the household, feels comfortable being there. While she actively talks about this and talks about some planning of it, she remains reserved in her physical actions. Which I understnad and know that it is a part of the process.

The plan for yesterday was that she was going to come over after work and hang out. Well, late in the afternoon she calls and says it would be easier if she just stayed over rather than going back and forth. She said she would just sleep on the couch or something. I jokingly said that I don't bite and she cuckled. While part of me says that it is too soon for that, I couldn't bring myself to say no either. So I made dinner to which she enjoyed. We watched some TV and played with the kids. After the kids were asleep, we were watching TV and I started to doze off on the couch (we were on seperate couches) and she commented that if I wanted to go to bed I could if I brought her a pillow. So I went and got a pillow and when I handed it to her I (without thinking) casually asked if she was sleeping on the couch. She asked if that was alright and I replied that it was (in probably not a very understanding manner however :-( GRRR ME!!! ). I went into the bathroom to brush my teeth and she comes in says she'll sleep in the bed with me if I don't try anything. Told her I wasn't planning to. So, she watched a bit more TV in bed and I gave her a kiss and told her goodnight.

I get up on the early side for work so this morning I tried to be as quite sa I could to not disturb her. I was getting dressed after my shower and I caught her sneaking a glance ;-) So anyway....

Some questions I have for you veterns....

1. How do you know the pace to maintain? I know each sitch is different, but do you go off of gut instinct or actively timeline things?

2. What are some milestones to gauge things by?