I am a new guy on this board. Been divorced about a month after a year-long process and just found out that ex has been seeing OM for quite some time. I've gone "dark" so to speak. Ex won't talk to me anyway, so I guess it doesn't really matter. Don't know if you feel like giving any input, but I'm curious about these relationships that start during the divorce process (or possibly prior to my separation). OM lives about 2 hours away and is now driving to our house (which my ex got in settlement) and spending nights here. I'm trying to understand her situation and am getting over the pain of finding out about him. She has completely changed. Her brother tells me that she still spends at least an hour a week going off about me to him. I hope that we can get things worked out, but am coming to grips with the reality that it most likely will never happen.
I'm sure you get a lot of requests for information and will understand if you don't feel like replying. The OM seems to fill all the voids that I couldn't or wasn't aware of. He has even started doing work on our house, which honestly, seems really weird so soon after the papers were signed.
We have three young daughters. This is basically a long-distance relationship and she is being very secretive about it. Any input would be greatly appreciated.
