It's stupid for me to go out on this limb knowing so little about your situation .... but in my experience, never underestimate the long-term, convoluted, and subterranean negative effects from having been seriously f*cked up about sex (that evil lustful desire) in childhood and adolescence, especially with religious overtones. Being gay may or MAY NOT have anything to do with it.
Good for you and very much good for him too for being willing to work to try to get to the truth of it. I hope you both find answers you can live with.
Thank you for your comment and support. I hope we can work through it, too.
