Well. We gave her presents this morning. Tonight we had Bengali food with a cake and sang her happy birthday -- it was all with the kids and a close family friend. No party.
I wasn't going to have the kids ignore the birthday.
Not ready to throw in the towel yet -- but I'm not afraid of losing her anymore. And, while she wants a separation in 12 months -- I'm ready to pull to the plug unless she stops communication with OM and recommit to the marriage.
So I've got 12 months to detach, make this about my call to adventure, let her feel my absence, and see what happens.
Superdad, glad you are getting to LOTR. It's really magical. My two oldest sons have read it multiple times.
Theoden is a great warrior who has been enchanted and made weak while his kingdom around him fell to pieces. Gandalf freed him and helped him find his strength again. I feel like that. Time to get my game back.
You were extremely nice to acknowledge her birthday for the kids. I had to do just that for Father's Day and it was very VERY soon after my first bomb. Yep, did it for the kiddos.
These days, I have been looking at detaching/GAL as a game or adventure too. Its really lifted my spirits. Like I am challenging myself to be happier and making it my responsibility to do just that. Silly, huh?
Well. We gave her presents this morning. Tonight we had Bengali food with a cake and sang her happy birthday -- it was all with the kids and a close family friend. No party.
I wasn't going to have the kids ignore the birthday.
This is great Theo, This is want I am talking about. You had me worried. Let's face it we would not have come this far if it was not for our kids. No matter how it may put me out if my marriage fails I do vow to make my son's life as "normal" as possible. Even if I have to do all of the work myself. I know you will to. Stay strong buddy
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
