My advise is to get that thought out of your head.
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My husband asked me to wait at least until Christmas before I did anything about moving toward selling our home. I am afraid that putting a deadline on it is going to result in making an irrevocable decision to sell our home, prematurely. Any advice on how to approach this decision?
I agree with PL and Grace. Notice your H said "at least until Christmas." And he asked you.
farmgirl, the other thing that is always useful is to take stock of one's self in all of this. We have to look in the mirror as well as the spouse who is in MLC. (You will find that I am not a huge MLC proponent, but a 59 y/o man who says he needs to grow up does seem to be walking down that path.)
One of my other thoughts is to ask your H if there is anything you can do to help him. I know you see him quite a bit, so I wouldn't be surprised if the subject has come up. But he needs to know you are there to help him, or maybe support is a better word. Nothing overbearing, of course.
Random questions: Are you two communicating? Does he speak of his feelings about his situation? Is your H doing anything to help himself, i.e. reading, going to therapy? Is there someone close who can help you? (In my case, I spoke to counselors and a couple of trusted people and that was it. I didn't pull siblings and best friends into this, excpet for the best friends I made through the board - remember you can't have people looking at your H like he is a 3-headed monster when he figures things out.)
And farmgirl, don't overthink this stuff. What you are trying to do is get to the next step. You have come here for a better understanding. Simple answers are usually the best.
