I need some advice. The full story of my sitch is in Newcomers and is called "It'll all reveal itself eventually"
My h pulled the pin on our marriage last week in a counselling session but still wants us to be friends. We were doing street latin dancing lessons which I had been wanting to do with him for years adn he finally agreed to do it. Now he says he really enjoys it and wants to continue doing it.
However, our dynamic in the past has been to break up and then kinda get back together and at the moment I feel that it is important to treat this as a final breakup and cool the contact for a couple of weeks. I hurt and I don't want to hurt anymore by letting him have his cake and eat it too.
How do I say I don't want to do dancing lessons with you for the next few weeks until we get things settled. I hope that we can eventually be friends (and I truly believe we can be good friends) but I just don't trust that he understands what a marriage break up means. I guess I'm saying that I want to go reasonably dark to protect myself but I don't want to jeopardise our future co-parenting relationship and I don't want to cut him out of my life completely. I'm just tired of hanging off his every word and hoping that he'll change his mind and change his behaviour.
Am I being petty or am I being reasonably in protecting myself from further pain?
