Just found out that OW has a kid!!

[Ophelia]

So, H leaves for his big, African adventure tomorrow. I posted the little good luck charms I got for him, along with a Bon Voyage card last Friday, but haven't had any response, but I think I've figured out why.

I've figured out that H has been living with OW for some time now. You see, I hadn't done any snooping type stuff for a while, but today I caved, and checked the forum I know H posts on. In one thread, about where people live, he mentioned that he's always lived in the western suburbs, apart from a short period of time where he lived with his parents.

Anyway, I then went to look him up in the WhitePages, to see if there was anyone with his name living somewhere in the western suburbs, (I'd looked for OW's name when I figured out who she was, but came up empty), and whaddya know, there's someone with his last name, and his first initial who lives in the suburb practically next to mine! I'm rather confident that this would be the right place, because it's not too far from where OW's parents live, (they are listed in the phonebook). It's walking distance from my place....our place. In fact, I walked very near to there when I went to post the card to him at his parents' address just the other day.

I dunno whether to laugh or cry!

Anyway, I'm guessing he probably doesn't have the card yet, because it was sent to his parents' place, and he's not living there anymore. Hopefully he'll see his parents before he leaves for Africa tomorrow, and they'll remember to give it to him.

There were some other things he mentioned on the forum which got to me. Talking about waking up with a migraine in the middle of the night and having OW freak out because he couldn't speak properly, like he was having a stroke or something.

Or how OW's son couldn't understand why he wasn't allowed to give him cuddles when he was sick recently.

Oh, and a thread about religion, where he mentioned several reasons why he's glad he's not Catholic, which included the fact that if he was, he wouldn't be allowed to get a D, and so would have had to live unhappily for the rest of his life.

I know this is why people say not to snoop, and I hadn't done it for a while, but I just wanted to keep updated. At least now I do know that he's living with her. That's probably why his parents haven't invited me to their place, and instead they always come here whenever we get together for lunch. They probably know that he hasn't told me he's living with OW yet, and of course, if I go to their place, then I'll find out, won't I? And they don't want to tell me, because it's not their place to do so.

I just feel so damn offended to be left so in the dark about what's going on. I know that H probably rationalises that I don't deserve or need to know what he's up to these days, but that doesn't make it much easier to take.