Regarding the house, make as few changes as possible for as long as possible. It will actually help your H if he wants at some point to come home, to feel like he has a home. Your stability will halp him becuase I guarantee you he does not feel "right" right now. Try not to rush anything. If you need some cash and company, take in a few foreign exchange students. Make the choices that are the leat disruptive until you see how this goes. You have a long term M, and you are being "nice" and respectful towards your H. Just keep it up, be really gentle and loving to yourself. HOt baths in the evening with candles are fun. Learn to appreciate the alone time and the quiet. It took me a long time, I was so restless, I am such an outgoing person. But I stopped watching TV, I read a lot, I prayed a lot, and I had two loyal phone buddies and this BB. I like my life better now than ever. Hang in there! You are just in a big transition. It does get better
PositivelyListening ************************************** When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. - Helen Keller
