My wifes first EA was about 4-5 years ago. The BF wife just got to witness her flirting and trying to set up a date with yet another guy. I am not the type of guy that makes assumptions. Remember I logic it all but am a slow learner.
I don't need an opprotunity to miss her I have had at least a solid year to do that. I am hoping that she will but she will start to miss me.
Yes I have picked up the pieces, and been there for her. I was designated the "fixer" even though that is not what I am good at.
No I do not do things on a regular basis. Other than take care of the kids.
No I would not change plans to accomadate her. In the past three months yes. That has been a huge issue with her all along. Which I am just now finding out.
I am letting go. She wanted this. This is up to her. Always has been. She will have to stand on her own and decide what she wants to do. Trust me when I say I am not angry. I dislike the situation that has but me here but I am ok with it. This sounds calous but I know who I am. What I want. I just never knew how to ask for it. I do now. Actually I was asking for it after the first EA she had. I wrote about it. I was not communicating in a way she could "hear". I have now. She is still not "listening". If she was reading this she would say its all aboutme, what you want. Silly thing is we both want the same thing. We just talk different.
So where we going......
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
