IMP is right in many ways, especially about there being so many positives in your situation.
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Now to your daughter. I can understand her hurt, but it isn't like your H has thrown his family away.
I was in your daughter's position and I can tell you from my personal experience that it felt like my dad walked out on us (the kids). My sisters and I all felt this way so it wasn't just me. We ranged in age from 15-21 at the time that he left. He kept in contact with us, saw us, but we still felt very, very hurt by his actions. I understand your daughter's reaction. I know that she is old enough to understand uncertainty, but honestly many of us are struggling to understand this...so it is hard for a teenager to understand this and be able to act appropriately.
IMP always has great advice and the post above is no exception...but having the unique perspective of being both a child of a MLCer and a wife of a MLCer, I can tell you that she is probably hurting a great deal, has many unanswered questions, and feels abandoned. I don't know what the right answer is to the Thanksgiving situation - my father just never had holiday dinners with us. I will tell you that when he did come to visit, he would come to the house fo9r the visit and it was very uncomfortable - and my dad was not a nasty MLCer. He and my mom had a friendly separation. But I clearly remember being very uncomfortable....
Welcome to the boards and I am sorry you find yourself here. But these boards and these people have helped me so much in the last couple of months. They understand, they listen, and they give you a shoulder to cry on.
