Well my friends another thread has locked up and my M is still going to end. I think the only thing holding up my D right now is that my L is on vacation again for a few weeks.
This past Friday my W recieved my counter to her L's proposal for D settlement and my W flipped out. In it my L asked that we share our girls one week on and one week off. I honestly had no idea that my L was going to make this request.... I think my L is trying to create some leverage for us since I was fine with the agreement that my W and I came to. I do know that my L was going to try and get a few more over nights for me with my girls, I guess this is how she is going about getting it. Either way I trust my L and do not trust my W or her L.
Since we had the blowup at the house where my W was throwing things and yelling....we came to an agreement that there would be no D talk in our home. So Saturday morning we went to a couple house from our church to talk about D. Well the guy house we went to did something totally unexpected. He gave my W the most convincing case as to why we should not be getting D and need to try to reconcile. Well that set my W off and she was pissed that he even tried. Even though it was fruitless I respect the man for trying to do what was right. We ended up meeting for over an hour with me not saying much. I told them that I could not say a whole lot and hoped that they could respect that. But what I did say was that I have instructed my L to have my girls best interests at heart and mine. Then when questioned by my W about our kids custody I told her that we talked in the past about how I felt about custody and she knew where I stood and I mentioned that her L is playing games and told her to figure it out. I cannot tell her that my L is trying to create some negotiating power because it compromises what my L is trying to do. Well the guy who's house we were at figured it out and told my W that Scott does not trust your L and knowing Scott he will do what is right in the end. I was relieved that he was able to sense that with me saying so little.
Now fast forward to Sunday night.... DD call me to say good night. D5 was crying on the phone missing her daddy. I talked to her for a little while and then D2. After I hung up my W called me back 15 minutes later telling me that she was going to tell D5 that she could not have her puppy because I was unwilling to take care of it. I told my W that that was inappropriate and that if she was not planning on keeping the puppy she needed to tell D5 that it would be to hard to care for the puppy between to homes and leave it at that. Now this puppy was bought by my W as a way to distract my DD's of all that is going on. I asked my W not to get it and told her if she did get it she would have to take care of it because I could not. Now that D is almost finished and my W clearly does not want this dog she is blaming me as the reason for getting rid of the dog. I hate this.........
So that is how my weekend started and now yesterday because of problems at work I spent 10hrs in my parents basement working. I guess my weekends hightlight is the fact that the Bears won and the conferance call that I was on that night did not last the entire game.
That bring me to today. I work for a bank so I got the day off, but D5 still had school??? I was able to have a lot of one on one time with D2 which was fun. Though since I was off D5 was excited for me to see her get off her school bus.. This meant that I had to sit out front of my W's new house and wait for her. That was kind of weird but not really that big of a deal.
Wow this is becoming a long post..... I will shorten try to put an end to it. I spent the evening with my girls and had fun. But for whatever reason I was in the dumps.....
