neph-- On a good note, maybe he turned to the porn because he isn't getting any...men need visual stimulation. How sad.
Don't let is actions and behavior get you down, hun. Remember these are HIS choices. And it is fitting that if he is acting so irradically in the most important aspect of his life (his marriage), that the sickness would spill over to other parts of his life. It is all part of the alien.
If he was happy, would he be watching porn? Either he is still searching for something in desperation that he can't have, or the OW is more disgusting than we could even imagine.
Hang in there, and know that every time you go into that room, you will see that rack and smile, a symbol of a woman with her power tools!
