Forrest Gump and his box of choclates.

[littlebitlost]

Forrest

I am just curious.....your best friends wife told you there has been an affair going on for 5+ years? Am I confused? Are they sure because if they dont know this for sure, they should keep their mouths shut! my H was told the same thing about me and it was absolutely untrue!!!!! I in turn heard the same things about him. They also were untrue. People can make assumptions about what is going on between two people and their assumptions may not be accurate. Remember this acronym FEAR

F - false
E - evidence
A - appearing
R - real

people may see things as evidence of something that isn't even real. Assumptions, remember, make an ass of out of you and me.

If you are sure taht this is what happened, then I truly am sorry for this situation. In my opinion, not that it counts for anything but, moving out is probably for the best. NOT because your marriage is over but because it gives you two a chance to be on your own. Being on your own will give you each an opportunity to 'miss' the other. It is amazing that you can actuaslly begin to miss things about the other person that used to annoy you. You may find that by detaching and distancing you may end up more in her thoughts than when you were there. It is hard to 'miss' someone who is always around.

Questions....were you always around for her, there for her?

Did you do things for her on a regular basis?

If she asked yo to do somethng would you change your plans to accomodate her?

and as you would say...yes, this is going somewhere