H wants D

[inmyplace]

breton,

I hope you were able to control your barf response when he said pathos.

The main thing here is your daughter. If 10% of what you have said is true, there is no way he will get custody. I figure about 18-19% min. (OMG, I used a smily!) Seriously, don't let something that hasn't happened get in the way of your health. You need your sleep.

As for the rest. Jst take it as it comes. It's really all you can do.

IMP

[forward]

I guess my worry is that he does care for D1.5 twice a week and has more free time than I do.

My friend who's referring me to an attorney was reassuring but man, I am stressed out.

[w8ing]

Breton - be proud of yourself...it sounds like you did a beautiful job in handling the conversation. It sounds like you kept your cool, your humor and your DBing. Good for you!

I understand where you are coming from with regard to custody. My H has never said that he wants custody and, in fact, has said that the girls are better off with me.

But MLC is a strange thing....I can't ignore that he didn't mean it, or he changed his mind or whatever. It is the one thing that I want/need and causes me the most stress....

You are doing the right thing in getting legal counsel on this issue.

Honestly, he is probably just like my H and will want his freedom, but you need to be prepared for anything.....

w8ing

[celestial]

Breton

I went through the same thing with xh#1. There is nothing more fearful to a mom than someone trying to take her kids. Even if it is dad.

Don`t worry. Any judge will see the difference between you and him, and clearly see your the one with the brains.

It`s only a threat to get to you, kind of an intimadation attempt. Be strong and don`t be intimadated.

You did great with H. Hang on.

Celestial

[Grace_O]

Stop worrying. A judge will absolutely see the difference. He's trying to get your goat. So, tie him in a different place.....
the goat that is.

[inmyplace]

Yep, breton, celestail and Grace have nailed it.

[forward]

I don't know--today he talked about caring for D1.5 an extra day per week. This makes me afraid because I worry that he is trying to get custody.

[forward]

Also, I have decided that if he tries to take D1.5 away from me or in any way tries to paint me as a bad parent, I will grant him his divorce with no regrets.

[inmyplace]

He is trying to reduce support payment, breton.

[inmyplace]

breton, this may be difficult to swallow, but if you want to own the agenda, you have to make the move, i.e. file for D.

IMP