oh, and yes i have had the reaction of handling a naked ... and having no reaction. I just didnt worry about it much at the time... because I wasnt expected to perform right then.
AND more importantly you assumed that when the occasion arose (so to speak) again, you would be able to depend on Mr. Happy.
Originally Posted By: Dom
actually, that kinda did happen once and dammit, she never strongly initiated again. sniff...]
I am so sorry... those memories (yours and hers can linger). Why do you suppose she has never strongly initiated again? Did she take your erection personally?
Originally Posted By: Dom
What I wish to convey, is that losing the physical, can be a nasty shock, and seriously disrupt the mental... but if the guy is in the right athmosphere, it doesnt have to mean that the mental goes away. It might need a little nudge to get it going after the shock... but if the guy is very comfortable with the gal, it can be quite fine.
Yes, of course, I've had this experience with a guy, too, and it certainly can be fine IF HE'S FAIRLY SURE THAT HE CAN HAVE AN ERECTION AGAIN WHEN HE WANTS ONE.
What if he is fairly sure he WON'T be able to have one again when he wants one? This is NOT a comfortable situation for either party.
Again, you don't experience an erection when you're sick. But you're pretty sure that when you're well, you'll be back in the game. What about if the game is over for your penis?
Originally Posted By: Dom
I have had many occasions where I have been in the situation of seeing something, or thinking of something, etc, etc, and suddenly been struck with the thought.. "huh.... kinda wierd I dont have an erection right now".
What if THIS were the norm for you?
Can you imagine your female partner assuring you it doesn't matter, she still loves you, "BTW, will you go down on me?" Actually it has the effect of making you want to avoid the whole subject.
I'm suggesting that this is ONE of the components in mr karen's sexual reluctance-- not the WHOLE picture, but part of it.
