Remembering myself, Part II

[Dom R]

Wow.. Lillie, when i saw you replying so fast, i was worried you were still angry. I'm impressed that you cooled off already

... But have you read all those things and really talked to other guys about their feelings when they can physically handle a naked breast or butt and have NO reliable response from their penis?

lillie, i was going to write more details in my prior post, but decided it was long enough.
i was going to write, that while I havent had many "in combat" ED type reactions to deal with... I have had many occasions where I have been in the situation of seeing something, or thinking of something, etc, etc, and suddenly been struck with the thought.. "huh.... kinda wierd I dont have an erection right now".

And assorted variations on that.

I personally think that most guys probably have. They just dont think about it much.
(I dont dwell on it, either )

oh, and yes i have had the reaction of handling a naked ... and having no reaction. I just didnt worry about it much at the time... because I wasnt expected to perform right then.

if, on the other hand, my wife dumped her naked boobies in my hands/face, and demanded "do me now!", I know that I would feel horrible if I let her down.

So, I know whereof I speak.

[actually, that kinda did happen once and dammit, she never strongly initiated again. sniff...]

That is to say, he may lose, or waver, in his mental "arousal", as a result of the lose of his physical arousal.

This is exactly what I thought I was saying. The mental arousal depends on the fact of the physical arousal.

Actually, that was not what I was saying
"depends on", says "if you dont have one, the other will go away". Rather, I would say, that the physical can influence the mental. both positively, and negatively.

What I wish to convey, is that losing the physical, can be a nasty shock, and seriously disrupt the mental... but if the guy is in the right athmosphere, it doesnt have to mean that the mental goes away.
It might need a little nudge to get it going after the shock... but if the guy is very comfortable with the gal, it can be quite fine.


PS: oh! I just thought of a specific type of example where i have sex on the brain, but no erection. When I have a multi-day sickness. Sometimes, my mental libido comes back before my physical.
Half of me wants to look down there and say, "wake up!" but the saner half is happy, since I wouldnt want to get my wife sick by jumping into things prematurely

There are other situations too, but that's an easy one.

I like "making my wife happy", even if I have no physical arousal.
I dont think I was always this way. I think it happened around the time I made the concious decision to try to stop being a selfish husband. Some time around hearing St. Paul's Ephesians letter for the umpteenth time about a husband's duty to his wife.