Rollar Coasters are no longer fun

[Amy]

Well, I have made it all day without calling him and I plan to continue with no contact at all. It is so hard. I just want to SCREAM. I did send him this email but he wont get it until he gets out of the hospital but it was at the advice of my therapist. That was my last contact totally. If he calls the kids will answer if he doesn't obey the guidelines then he wont talk to them at all.

H,

You may call the kids from 6-7 PM CST on school nights and on the weekends all calls need to be made before 7 PM CST also as I will be maintaining a consistent bedtime. Per the advise of the therapist all phone calls need to be concluded by 7 PM so they can have time to let their minds clear before going to bed.

We will be attending church on Sundays and Wednesdays so the kids may not be available on these days via phone. When I have them in sports and activities if the times need to change I will let you know.

The kids know that they will be expecting calls from you from 6-7 CST which is 7-8 your time. If you do not call then they will wait until the next day to speak with you. Many times there have been many calls made from the kids to you and I get the blame for them so to clarify this we will not call at all. They have been told they can talk to you when you call them. They are fine with this. If there are any emergencies I will email you or notify you when you call the kids. If you choose to not speak to me then you will get all notification via email or certified mail.

At the advice of the therapist all calls will be limited to whichever kids want to speak. I am not to force anyone that does not want to talk to do so at this time. They all have their own ways of dealing with everything.

Also, all calls will monitored and if the conversation is not appropriate the call will be disconnected.

I will not keep you from interacting from your kids but boundaries need to be set.











Let me know what you guys think about that? I hope it wasn't to harsh but I wanted to be to the point and unemotional. He needs to think/know I am done.