OK. So I think I'm going to switch therapists. I don't like the vibe/message the guy i've been seeing is giving. It's not that there isn't some truth in what the guy says, it's the way and the judgment he has in how he says them.
He's dropped the following:
"She sounds very immature"
"[it sounds like] she just wants to be single, living with friends and hanging out"
"I think your marriage is over, and that might be a good thing"
"With no kids, no house, it's like a Get out of Jail Free Card"
He seems to have a rather unfavorable view of my wife (granted, I've had some negative thoughts about her in all of this, and questioned her motives), and that I'm good to be shut of her. Or at least, that this ending is probably a good thing/healthy thing because I'm so young, I can still make a life of it.
("you should pour all your energies into moving forward and getting into the grad program you want and rebuidling your life").
He also thinks that there's a "hidden reason" about why she's leaving (read my post a few pages back about the conversation I had with her on 10/1/07, where she said that her willingness to work on the relationship broke because she wasn't sure she could have faith that I could seriously make my changes happen).
