There was a be good vs have fun debate somewhere? Too tired to look for it. Anyways I'm in the "have fun" camp because I don't really think you know how to be anything but "good", by my definition, aka the only one that counts. *g* Being "bad" is simply not in your repertoire so you don't need any encouragement to be good.
If you fall because you're unused to high heels you'll pick yourself up again and march on. I'm glad you're having some fun. Go for it.
Anyways I'm in the "have fun" camp because I don't really think you know how to be anything but "good", by my definition, aka the only one that counts. *g* Being "bad" is simply not in your repertoire so you don't need any encouragement to be good.
Thanks. I guess my self-doubts fall in the gray area where careful means something different than caring. Why does it feel so right to be carefree and yet so wrong to be someone who couldn't care less?
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If you fall because you're unused to high heels you'll pick yourself up again and march on. I'm glad you're having some fun. Go for it.
I do seem to be pretty bouncy which is always helpful when you tend towards toddler-running-with-scissors-by-edge-of-pool-wearing Mommy's-high-heels behavior.
I guess the other way to look at it is that maybe "being good" is equivalent to "delaying gratification" or trying not to have "eyes to big for my stomach". But I gotta tell you, GP was totally encouraging delaying sexual activity so I was very "good" on our second date and went away even though there was quite a bit of unresolved tension. However, I ended up being so thoroughly aroused and horny afterwards that one day that week I ended up MBing in the women's room at the park I walk to with my dog. I really am very HD.
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"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
I don't think the 2 messages you're receiving are " have fun" and " be good." Like Lou, I want you to " have fun" but " stay safe". I feel you desrve the fun, but this naive, wondrous quality about you that I've picked up after 3 yrs on the board makes me feel protective of you as well.
Anyway, my profile is still live on one site but it indicates that I am "seeing someone" and I took off my picture. The "seeing someone" message resulted in no reduction in interested inquiries.
This really does not mean much to most of us men. Not quite the same as internet dating, but if I had shied away from "seeing someone," I would not be with my wife today
A profile that is still live = still a chance...right?
I don't think the 2 messages you're receiving are " have fun" and " be good." Like Lou, I want you to " have fun" but " stay safe". I feel you desrve the fun, but this naive, wondrous quality about you that I've picked up after 3 yrs on the board makes me feel protective of you as well.
Naive, moi?! Okay, I know what you mean but you don't have to worry about me anymore because GP is going to teach me Jujitsu. Also, he's going to train me to be some sort of gambler's moll. At first these concepts were freaking me out a little bit but then I had the excellent idea that no matter how things work out I can probably write a book about the experience. I think an account of the adventures of a midwestern Mom bibliophile birkenstock wearing type turned stiletto-wearing-flashy-Corvette-convertible-riding-in- watching-the-back-of-giant-dark-and-handsome-dice-roller would sell quite nicely to the women's book group set.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Thanks. I guess my self-doubts fall in the gray area where careful means something different than caring. Why does it feel so right to be carefree and yet so wrong to be someone who couldn't care less?
To me being carefree means knowing you'll be all right no matter what tomorrow may bring. Careless is something else.
Careless people break things and people and let others sweep up the mess (there's a 'Gatsby' quote in there somewhere, let me look for it: "They were careless people, Tom and Daisy -- they smashed up things and creatures and then retreated back into their money or their vast carelessness or whatever it was that kept them together, and let other people clean up the mess they had made".)
You're not careless, or at least you've never given any indication that you are.
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I do seem to be pretty bouncy which is always helpful when you tend towards toddler-running-with-scissors-by-edge-of-pool-wearing Mommy's-high-heels behavior.
I guess the other way to look at it is that maybe "being good" is equivalent to "delaying gratification" or trying not to have "eyes to big for my stomach".
Nothing wrong with delaying gratification. Or with giving in to temptation. It depends.
then I had the excellent idea that no matter how things work out I can probably write a book about the experience. I think an account of the adventures of a midwestern Mom bibliophile birkenstock wearing type turned stiletto-wearing-flashy-Corvette-convertible-riding-in- watching-the-back-of-giant-dark-and-handsome-dice-roller would sell quite nicely to the women's book group set.
You must read the book "Eat, Pray, Love" by Elizabeth Gilbert. I'm about a quarter into it and am fascinated. It's a true story about this woman having a marital crisis, who then finds her spiritual side and then goes off to travel for a year. She is a writer by profession and has an amusing, breezy style that is really entertaining.
You're not careless, or at least you've never given any indication that you are.
GP: You weren't dressed warmly enough the last time I saw you.
Mojo: Well, as you get to know me better you will discover that I'm the kind of woman who is always losing her mittens. Will you help me find my mittens?
GP: (rather crossly) No, I am not going to help you find your mittens. You will just have to pin your mittens to your coat.
Mojo: (sigh)
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
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