Update: I want to Salavage my Marriage

[PhD_ChrisD]

Hi All,

Back from vacation so I can update a little more often. I think the time apart was good for W and I. She is a little more tolerant and easy to communicate with. However, as soon as we get together she does become quite angry and abrasive quickly.

The good news is that she is wanting to stay home more. She talked to her "friend" and decided she was partying too much and not being with her kids enough. I think this is progress. She still advises me not to push her or pressure her.

So, I set some goals to be back in the house. I have been there and that is good. I wish we could have one day of not fighting, but she is quite angry with me still. I am hoping that time and patience will pay off with respect to her anger.

She will not go to a C as she feels that is a waste of time and money and that "people should fix their own problems." I do not want to pressure her, only let her know that the option is on the table if she wants it.

All in all, we are not in a good place, but better than before. I don't think she wants a divorce but she threatens every day with one. I think she is as tired of our S as I am.

I am doing OK. I spend lots of time with the kids and try to do my own thing. W let me know her problems with me and I try to address them and just be aware of myself and what I say.

--Chris