Here is a concrete question for you: I bought our daughter a plane ticket home for Thanksgiving, but she insists that she is not interested in eating together as a "non-family."
I tried to tell my husband nicely that we need to figure out a plan that did not involve the 4 of us sitting around the table carving up a dead bird. He suggested going out of state to visit his single brother for Thanksgiving, but wanted to know if I thought that was ok. My answer was a relieved "yes" because it simplified the awkwardness. However, I got the clear impression that he was sad and irritated at the lack of an invitation from me.
Did I do right? I am tempted to say "Would you like to come home, and we can make it wonderful?" I think he is a little hurt by my surprising stand-offish behavior.
I hate this! I just want to have a loving and harmonious home! Our poor kids are really bummed out by their crazy parents (dad!)
Everything I am "supposed" to do goes against my natural impulses... Thank you!
