Let's clarify a few items. H has had an episode or two of ED but does not seem to have ED per se. So, it seems that my choice is not between penile IC and other sexual stuff. It is between penile IC (this is what I get when we have sex) and no sex at all. Are you saying that you believe I am getting sex only when my H is feeling fully functional?
If in fact my H was not able to have an erection I understand and agree that we could have a sex life. Since he does get and stay erect (though it sometimes waxes and wanes) then he doesn't seem to see all that kissy, licky, close stuff as necessary. If he did all that just caus he thinks I'm a great gal and he couldn't do the other I'm pretty sure we could still have a great time.
With the kids I am saying that H likes them underfoot, chooses it and would find it off putting if I suddenly started distancing him from them.
Good point on the telephone counseling. I just found someone from my area who will do just that. She is a sex therapist. I will probably fork over that $170 as soon as I can work out a time. I need to get my ducks in a row on it first. I need to write out some kind of synopsis or something to email to her so that I don't spend the whole time giving "history".
Also, a good point on giving him another choice other than what he thinks he can offer (dinner) and what I think I want (sex) and choosing some close approximation that he might be able to deal with. This may actually do some kind of good.
