It is that H will sidestep any suggested solutions, will fail to commit himself to a plan and will otherwise put up roadblocks to anything I bring up. It is so frustrating. My H continuously seeks to station any number of things between himself and me: tiredness, additional activities, kids, community activities, exercise, work, television (he'll stay up and I'll go to bed alone) etc...
Yeah!! WTF is this all about? I get this too...I don't know if's purely a mechanism to give them an excuse or it's just a part of their personality. I tend to think the latter but I suppose I could be wrong. What leads me to the latter is if I "back off" it still happens. For example, I will go to bed early knowing that there is no way S will occur. The next day, she will say "gee I shouldn't have stayed up till 2:00 AM cleaning the fish tanks" or some other weird thing.
Karen said about her H's s*xual behaviors "I don't get it". I think she actually does but just can't relate to it. I know I can't.
