Sara,

I think it's the same for Yoyo and me.

If we don't fundamentally change and blossom in new and self-assetive, empowered ways, our spouses won't change.

Blowing off the b-day was a small step -- but she felt my absence. my NOT being there for her like a labrador retriever.

Yoyo...listen up if we don't change, they won't change. If we don't stand up for ourselves, they may come back, but still treat us like sh*t.

--Theoden