You're right about that I guess. I'm not sure I can ever get past the walls that my w. has built up. She's an injustice collector and has brought up stuff from 1987! I have my faults. I'll admit that. We all come with frailties. She has said that. I know a lot of stuff I got wrong, but if a spouse is unwilling to forgive and move on??? I've got three kids, and they are at such a bad age for this to occur, it infuriates me. she has someone who loves her and loves the kids. I do believe it's easier to work on the primary R., and I want nothing more than that. Thanks for the female perspective. I really like hearing from you. I think also, that Hill is right. We are wired differently, doesn't mean bad, means different. I look around at a lot of the guys here, and they talk a lot about wives. I don't think I've been half as bad as a lot of these guys, but.....
Good luck Hill. It sounds like the "call" is pulling you back in again.
I haven't writtne W. very much, so sending emails might be tricky. It will seem like pursuit, but I've been away for 10 months. When does the "don't pursue" thing have a Staute of Limitations? :-) Any suggestions? I wrote to her yesterday and said that I would like to have the kids meet me in FLA during my 2 week R&R, and go to Universal and Disney. They would love that. No response as of yet. With D17's school for troubled kids costing 8K/month, money may be tight, but I have sent it all home..tax free O5 pay with hostile fire pay, etc!!! I may just end up pulling out the charge card!
