My little glimmer of hope just fizzled out

[kaydeekay]

Update:

Since H leaving a year ago (for the upteenth time) this month he has not had D14 over to visit him once.

I have been having problems with D14's attitude (typical teenage stuff) and I asked H if he could talk to her and maybe spend some time with her. H calls back and tells me D14 will be spending a week with him.

Later that evening, I text H and asked that if he was living with a female that it might be best if D14 didn't stay overnights with him. H calls me and tells me that he is living with someone and he has talked with D14 and said she was okay with this. I told him that I would talk with D14 also about this.

D14 says she is okay with this and really wants to spend time with her dad. So I'm allowing her to go.

H told me he wants to prove to me and D14 that he can be a father to her and would not put D14 second to his "new" girlfriend.

I told H that I was concerned about D14 getting too close to new OW (she may or she may not) and if things didn't work out between H and OW, I don't want D14 to get confused or hurt. H informed me that he and OW are beyond working things out and they in fact maybe getting serious on down the road. I asked H about the divorce and he said he didn't want to talk about that right now, only want to talk about D14.

If my calculations are right, and I think they are this is the same OW that H had told me about around spring time and as recently as a few months ago. I believed he may have moved in with her around the beginning of summer and if that's the case we were having sex during this time.

I think this will make it H's 4th or 5th woman that he has been involved with since he left 3 years ago.

In a way I feel very sorry for him. He is looking for something to feel some empty void in his life. I'm hoping with D14 spending time with him will have some minor impact on him in a positive way. I'm hoping their relationship will grow and they can be close again.

Af for my thoughts about new OW. I realy don't have any. I don't have the hurt or jealousy feealing as I did when I found about first OW.

Now I have to decide if I want to continue to stand or move forward with the D. Maybe I'm missing it, but after 3 years of H being in MLC I don't see that he will be coming out of it anytime soon.

Changed screen name (formerly kaydeekay)